Thursday Thoughts: I’m Choosing To Be Me In A Difficult Situation

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latteIt’s time for another Thursday Thoughts post. This is a difficult post for me to write. I struggled with whether or not I should even write about it, but I’m a real person and write about real life. Plus it’s my blog and my blog is my therapy, right? 🙂 Anyone who knows me knows that I am a trusting person, and that I will go to the ends of the earth to make good on my promises.

I recently found out that I was taken advantage of by someone that I really trusted. Someone that I always went the extra mile for, had respected greatly, and who is in a position of power in my life. I will call this person Mr. X since I don’t want to reveal specific details in a public forum. One can never be too careful when taking to the internets.

Not only was I taken advantage of by Mr. X but when I pointed out to him that I had discovered this, I was pretty much dismissed as if it were no big deal. My first response was anger. I found a friend and raged to him about what had happened. I thought if this is the way Mr. X was going to behave then fuhgeddaboudit. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander, and I was no longer going to help them do diddly squat. You get what you get, and see how you like it. Pah!

I did a lot of soul searching on this and I realized something. That’s not me. If I reacted by no longer being helpful and doing the bare minimum that I could get away with, then I would be no better than Mr X. My reputation and being the best person I can be means the world to me. My fault was trusting and believing that I was doing the right thing. If someone chose to take advantage of that, that was their shortcoming not mine.

I could let anger consume me, but I’m choosing to be the bigger person and not lower myself to their level. I’m not going to beat myself up for this because trusting people is not a character flaw. It’s something special and I don’t want to lose that part of me. It doesn’t mean that I will ever trust this person again nor do I have to, but I’m not going to let it change the person I am.

I’m going to hold my head high, smile and be the best person I can be. Boy, have I come a long way in the past couple years. I’m confident in who I am and who I want to be in life. Maybe this Happiness Project really is working. And that’s a really good thing. 🙂

Have you ever been betrayed by someone close to you? Do you have any advice on how to handle it?


  1. Im sorry that you are going through a hard time with Mr. X….feeling betrayed is never easy but it sounds like you are managing it correctly.

    I’ve been betrayed a lot in the last year but I’m working through it and now working through the weight that I put on during it…no excuses just trying to find myself again.

    Good luck to you.

    • Accidental Fitness Quest says

      It’s still eating at me a bit since I have to see him every day but I’m trying to be the better person. My workouts have saved me this week. I’ve put my heart and soul into working out the anger in the gym instead of pouting around the house.

      I’m sorry you’ve had the same type of issues this year. It’s not easy when it happens. I’m hoping you find yourself again quickly. This too shall pass. 🙂

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